I am Stuck Here
Unlike meeting people in a real world
setting, meeting people on the Internet is a
very limiting experience. On
the Internet, the only thing you experience about people is what
they write. You cannot touch them. You cannot see them. You cannot
tell if they are laughing or crying. You cannot know if they are
telling the truth or lying.
When you are online, you may feel that
your needs for connection and friendship are being met by the people
you meet there. However, because the Internet is limited to text,
your needs are only partially and temporarily met. There are many needs
that the Internet can
never meet such as the need for physical closeness.
Since their needs are only partially
and temporarily met online, people feel compelled to get back online
more often and stay online for longer periods of time. The thrill
and exhilaration of interacting with people online is temporary,
too, and quickly fades when people are off their computers. The
"high" they had online is now replaced by a period of
"coming down" offline.
Rather than helping people to overcome
their feelings of isolation and loneliness, the Internet increases
them by keeping people even more isolated from the real world.
People get hooked on the Internet just as they would with drugs or
alcohol. People also use the Internet as they would drugs or alcohol
as a means of escaping the pressures of the real world.
The #1 Mistake of the Internet is when
people believe that the Internet is just like the real world and can
meet all of their interpersonal and emotional needs.
Just the opposite happens because the
Internet keeps them out of the real world, and the real world is
the only place where all of their needs can be fully and